"I can do it myself!": growing confident, capable little people
It usually arrives somewhere around two. You reach to help with a shoe, a spoon or a jersey, and a small hand pushes yours away. "Me do it!" What follows might take five times as long and end with the shoe on the wrong foot. And yet, look at that face. Pure, shining pride. Your little one has discovered one of the most wonderful feelings in the world: I can.
Why independence matters so much
Every time a child does something for themselves, they learn that their efforts make a difference. Pouring their own water, packing away their toys or choosing which jersey to wear might seem small to us, but to a toddler each one is a victory. Those victories add up to a deep belief in their own abilities, and that belief is the foundation of confidence, resilience and a love of learning.
Independence also builds real skills. Doing up buttons strengthens little fingers for holding a pencil. Following the steps to wash their hands teaches sequencing and memory. Carrying a plate carefully to the table builds concentration and coordination. Children are learning all the time, especially when they're allowed to do it themselves.
Making room for "me do it" at home
The secret is to set things up so your child can succeed. Keep a low step at the basin, put their cups and bowls on a low shelf, and choose clothes with easy elastic waists and shoes with Velcro straps. Small changes like these turn frustration into success.
Allow a little extra time in the morning so there's space for them to try. Offer simple choices: the red cup or the blue one, this jersey or that one. Give them real jobs, like feeding the dog, watering the plants or helping you unpack the shopping. And when things get messy or the shoe goes on backwards, smile, help only as much as they need, and praise the effort. "You worked so hard on that!" means the world to a small child.
Growing capable children at Junior Colleges Sunninghill
At Junior Colleges Sunninghill, on Nanyuki Road, our principal Bev Singh's vision is for a caring and supportive school where children grow into well-adjusted individuals. Independence is a big part of that. Our teachers give children time and encouragement to do things for themselves, from serving themselves at mealtimes to tidying up after play and taking care of their own belongings.
Our enquiry-based approach also invites children to think for themselves. They ask questions, try ideas and solve little problems, with teachers gently guiding them to find their own answers. Children explore early literacy, numbers, digital literacy and creative arts in hands-on ways that leave plenty of room for discovery. Breakfast, a snack and lunch are included each day, and mealtimes become a lovely chance to practise pouring, serving and good manners.
Because we care for children from six weeks old right through to Grade 0, we have the joy of watching them grow from babies who need us for everything into confident Grade 0s ready to take on big school.
Patience now, pride forever
It can be so tempting to step in and do it ourselves, especially on a busy morning in Sandton traffic. But every time we wait a little and let them try, we're giving our children a gift that lasts: the knowledge that they are capable.
If you're looking for a preschool in Sandton where your child will grow in confidence every day, we'd love to welcome you to our school community in Sunninghill. Visit our preschool in Sandton and book a tour to see our children in action.







